I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak/ill/crazy?
An investment in your health is really the opposite of "weakness", but it can feel scary to ask for help, especially from someone you’ve never met, or in a situation where stigma may be a worry. It takes courage to reach out, and the effort is well worth it. In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce the influence of the challenges you are facing, but my first step is to collaborate with you to make your unique therapy experience safe and good fit for your needs.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
A psychologist has had extensive, doctoral level education and training to help you approach your mental healthcare in a way non-therapeutic relationships just aren't set up to do. I often have clients who feel isolated because they do not want to worry or burden the people they care about, or because they think their thoughts and feelings may be hard to explain without judgement. Psychotherapy is confidential and focused specifically on you, making it a safer space to explore places you may fear to go, even with loved ones.
Am I a bad parent if my child is struggling?
Children and teens are unique individuals as much as adults are, but are in a different developmental space. Often children do not have the words or awareness to put their feelings and behaviors together, or, even in the case of teens, feelings can be so big they are overwhelming, embarrassing, and hard to figure out. Sometimes this takes the situation out of the realm of day-to-day parenting and points to a need for some outside help. By seeking therapy for your child, you are clearly prioritizing your child’s health, which is at the top of the good parenting list, in my book.
How long will it take?
There isn't an easy answer to this one. Everyone's healthcare needs and circumstances are different. You may have heard of some treatments or types of therapy that have specified lengths, but any treatment has to fit you and the outcome you are looking for. A consultation with your potential therapist is a great place to evaluate your needs and an estimate of the length of time it might take to reach your goals.
*I get this question most often when discussing the financial commitment of therapy. All health providers are required by law to estimate your costs over a reasonable period of time for you, the No Surprises Act. A discussion of what this looks like for each client is a part of every initial consultation I provide.
I want to get the most out of therapy. How can I make that happen?
Growth can sometimes be uncomfortable. Being kind to yourself, and curious about yourself, as well as active participation, honesty, and dedication to your own health will be crucial to getting the most out of your time and effort. Just remember, your therapist is right there with you for the hard or scary bits as well.